Married Life of the Average Housewife

So it is 10.00 a.m. in the morning after you've sent your kids off to school, husband off to work, washed the dishes, swept the house, made the beds, washed the clothes and finally settle down to have some breakfast, and you’re thinking; “Now I have to go shopping for groceries!”  By the time you get to town it’ll be almost high noon and as we all know the heat at that time of the day – for the lack of a better expression – is unbearable!

By the time you’re back from town, it is most likely that you've skipped lunch, you might have had something cool to beat the heat (unsuccessfully) – perhaps not even that; and of course you have no intention to cook just for yourself – you’d rather drink a jug of ice-water and throw yourself on to the bed to take few precious minutes of sleep before you have to wake up to go pick the kids from school or hopefully you've arranged a school van to bring them home.

Either way you have to wake up, prepare something for the kids to have when they come home – all kids ask for something to eat/drink when they come home – and then start on making dinner!

The availability of a domestic help might add a few more minutes to yourself but little is different from otherwise.

So by the time your man comes home, you look something like this:

Hopefully he finds this sexy LOL
What a life…  

So ladies, if this story is true about you, let it not be…

“Pft” you say…

Of course it is easier said than done; but Honey, it can be done! 

Here are THREE RULES I've gathered from well experienced women which you might find useful:

Rule Number ONE: Check yourself. When is the last time you went for a facial or clean-up? When is the last time you bought something nice to wear? For most of you, I’m sure the answer is in months. You would fail to see the need for such things when you become so busy with life as a wife and specially a mother. But darling, darling, DaRlinG Please!  Everyone else in your family thinks about themselves first – that includes your children and husband and anyone else at home. So your number one priority is yourself – and I don’t mean it in an irrational narcissistic manner of course. You know what I mean…

Rule Number TWO: Find out your life’s purpose and NO it isn't caring for your children and attending to your husband! – Think about yourself before you got married, what was your dream? What things did you like doing? Find something that you’re passionate about and get to it. Remember, the magic word here is ‘Passionate’

e.g.

·         Drawing

·         Sewing

·         Cooking / Baking

·         Writing Poems

·         Playing the Piano (or any other instrument for that matter)

·         Charity/ Social Work

·         Singing and Dancing

Once you get going, every other duty you have to perform as a Wife and Mother will find a way to fit in to your day’s schedule – trust me it does. Being happily occupied is the best medicine for all emotional problems – I believe. You wouldn't have the time to be sulky and depressed. Even if it is tiring, at the end of the day the feeling of accomplishment more than compensates for the energy spent – or should I say ‘energy invested’? You can even go ahead and make an income out of it! J 

Rule Number THREE: Get out! Ladies do not confine yourselves to the walls of your home, dress up and go out!

Shopping is a good excuse, but it has to be a fun experience – not grocery shopping at 12 noon. Shop for some nice and comfortable but posh looking clothes to wear at home, so you don’t have to look at yourself in the mirror in that depressing nightie/pj you wear day in and day out – you know the one with the huge yellow stain on the stomach? LOL  If you girls love lingerie – that could be a thrilling inclusion to your shopping list.

Join some effective groups/clubs, not the gossipy gatherings but something relaxing and worthwhile, like joining a choir if you can sing! 

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I hope this helps some of you out there!

Lots of Love Ladies 

Take Care 

~Portia~